Sad case. Your friend shouldn't have given away the house. He can go to the Tribunal for the Maintenance of Parents (MCYS) to file a complaint and ask for monthly maintenance.Originally Posted by irisng
Sad case. Your friend shouldn't have given away the house. He can go to the Tribunal for the Maintenance of Parents (MCYS) to file a complaint and ask for monthly maintenance.Originally Posted by irisng
Much as I disapprove the son's action (not even talking about the daughter-in-law) of demanding the father to buy back the house from him, (how did he even bring himself to verbalize those demands?) I was also thinking that his behavior is either reflective of his personal beliefs, whether influenced by his wife, friends or even his own family members or the education system. It takes quite a lot for someone to actually conceive those ridiculous and rudicrous demands less articulating them.
Not so bad lor provided the yng couple give mthly pocket money to their old folks lor....family bonding too i wud encourage ppl to do tatOriginally Posted by Jadey
If you want family bonding, one should invite your parents over to stay with you and rent out their place use it as a source of income for their retirement.Originally Posted by devilplate
either wayOriginally Posted by Jadey
Not so easy... very difficult to have parents staying with wife or vice versa. Not so straight forward. I'd rather spend more money to buy a house and spend 30 years tenure servicing the mortgage than to put up with any potential in-house disputes, fights, cold wars, etc. For every 1 couple I find who can stay with parents-in-law, I found another 9 who cannot.Originally Posted by Jadey
Actually this should be the way for family bonding but I have another case which is just the other way round. My colleague's brother-in-law rents out his own house and went to stay with his parents. The rental amount goes to his own pocket.Originally Posted by Jadey
"Not so easy... very difficult to have parents staying with wife or vice versa. Not so straight forward. I'd rather spend more money to buy a house and spend 30 years tenure servicing the mortgage than to put up with any potential in-house disputes, fights, cold wars, etc. For every 1 couple I find who can stay with parents-in-law, I found another 9 who cannot."
Agree. If stay together with the in-laws, sure have some disagreement. All of us come from different background and was brought up differently. So certain habits that we have might be a sore eyes to her and vice versa. That's why before I married, I told my husband that I don't want to stay with my in-laws because I wanted to avoid any unnecessary disputes.
I found that in this way, my relationship with my in-law is better than my 2 other sister-in-laws who stay next door. My husband, me and my 2 children went down to visit my in-law every Saturday. Once a while, we will bring her to overseas to experience other countries' culture. She loves it especially Beijing and Japan. Though she always said that "don't need lah, let you all spend money", but I could tell that she was actually very excited and happy.
When my husband gives her allowance, she will sure to give some back to him, my in-law is actually very good and understanding. So not necessary give her money, she will be happy, it is the care that matters, that's what I think.
BTW, how to put 2 "quotes' in 1 reply.
Last edited by irisng; 26-07-11 at 21:10.
Reply two times lor. Just copy the quote from the 2nd reply and paste in the earlier one under edit.Originally Posted by irisng
Oic, thank you.Originally Posted by ysyap
Just remember that what ever we do, we are setting an example for our children to follow.Originally Posted by irisng
Words of wisdom. What we do to or for our parents today will be done to or for us tomorrow!Originally Posted by Jadey